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my mother just said she will go to mumbai because she dosnt want to have a haert attack.
how about me she always yells at me, shouts at me. these ladies in my house never been like other ladies. they work so they think they are most intelligent in the world and others are fool & dirty.
day before yesterday they sent me out with my luggage and said dont come back this is the third time they did so.
i met babuji who is a good person met us at mamus house. my sisters and mother never hasitate to tell other people about me that im bad.
when i heard my sister talking about me to her friend (umesh) i was shocked. and couldnt believe my ears that a family mamber can do this to other one.
i cry when i think about this.
but now they are thirsty of my blood.
and want me badly to leave the house, so i m looking for a room for me.
im stuck here badly.
i m stupid that i find love in every person.
when the first time called a person to beat me it was worst day of my life and i cant forget it.
here's the story:-

I was sleeping on my bed, i have problem of urine frequency because of my family and a little dibetic too and i am over weight because im not allowd to workout so i spend all my time on my computer.
i went to pee 4-5 times that morning, my elder sister suraiya was sleeping below near my bed.
so when i got up my feet touched her slightly everytime, and my family hates wen someones feet touch them because they are cleanest in the whole world.
she started shouting and called mother all people started shouting and cursing me.
i got hyper and shoued back, now mom came to hit me i hit back( i feel regrate about it ), my always bad sister suraiya called someone on the phone and started crying. i snached her cell and trew it very hard and broke it. she made excuse that she is leaving house right now. she went out and came back with a fat man whos name was salman and was her friend, he looked at me with anger in his eyes and came to me held my hand twisted it and put my head on the bed and just twisted my hand.


now famyli is meant to be support, help, and love.
i was seeing enemies at that time i was helpless and crying that its impossible to make someone beat your own son and brother.
i was shocked i can never forget that morning. the memories are still fresh in my mind.
and my family is getting cruel day by day.
they just hate me now and love others like daughters and their husbands.



can anyone with such family survive?? or still can stay with the family??


My neighbor is a boy and 8 which is the same age as my daughter. He calls her fat, and punched her on the bus. i have caught him throwing things at my daughter and i told her she needs to defend herself, but my daughter is a lover not a fighter, and just cries when he does this. i have talked to the parents numerous times and got kinda rude a couple of times, but they make excuses for their child and most of the time find a reason to blame mine. the principal suspended my son off the bus for getting up and walking around and they did nothing to this boy for punching my daughter. my son was going to cubscouts and because of this same boy (his mom is the leader) he quit. he said the boy wouldnt physically leave him alone and when he told the boys mom, she did nothing. what should i do? i have went to the transportation dept, the principal, the parents numerous times but it doesnt do any good because noone does nothing about this child. i am fed up with my children feeling unsafe and harassed. i have taken my children off the pass and started taking them, but 2 days out of the week they have to ride the bus because i am in class late. the boys parents are good friends with the police so i dont think calling them would help- as we are new to the area. any advice would be great.
sorry pass should be bus


me and my boyfriend have been together over a year and we live togther with his two kids. his daughter is 9 years old and his son is 5. his son and i have grown VERY close. at first his daughter loved me and i began to do morethings with her that her own mother never really does, everything was great(we neve say ANYTHING bad about her mother because we dont want them to hate her) out of know where she started to tell me that she hates me and that i'm not her mom! i never tried to be her mom and i have told her that. that i am only here for when she needs me. also i am the first girl that she has ever seen with her father but her mother is one of those ladies that cant keep their legs shut and introduces every guy to them :-( but we pretend everything is okay. i do what i can for these kids. why the hostility towards me??


i am 23 weeks pregnant, he wants nothing to do with baby. He told me if i had an abortion he would leave wife and make family with me. i could not abort so he left me. i believed i could not get pregnant and that he was with his wife to help her get papers and because they had a daughter (she is 4). should i tell his wife? i wanted to tell his mom maybe she might want to see the baby. i do not know what to do.....i feel awful for my son i can not believe he is really abandoning him. he told me a child needs to be with father that is why he was still with her. i can not believe their happiness is worth more.


Remember after Natalie died? Every year around Christmas, she would visit her son Timmy (who was still grieving for her) as a "Christmas Angel", and cause some kind of miracle to happen.

I think the first couple of Christmases she came in the form of a woman, but the third Christmas a Santa Clause performed the miracle, and Timmy automatically knew that it was a message from his mom.

I really looked forward to the following Christmas miracle; but it never happened. It's like they just faded from existence.

I think Pine Valley is really due for another Christmas miracle. Maybe in the form of Dixie visiting JR? Her message of hope could be that he's gonna beat the cancer and live a long and happy life. Of course, she would visit everybody who loved her, and every Christmas both Tad (along with his and Dixie's daughter Kate) and JR could go and sit on the park bench and wait for the voice humming "You Are My Sunshine".


Well, I was at this woman's house, and she had some friends over.
She was doing everyone's hair (she colors hair for a living)

Her daughter who is about 1 1/2 was extremely contagious....and nobody knew about it.
So that was Saturday.

Today, the baby, the mom, the son, and this man that was over there were all confirmed swine flu.
I was playing with and holding the baby for quite some time.
I feel a little sick, but it might be my body playing a trick on me since mom just told me....but yeah.

I haven't had any shots.
I'm not really planning on it either.

Do you think I can get the flu still?
How long does it take?


im pregnant & thinking sbout telling my mom soon (im young) any advice on how to do it? how did you react when your daughter or son told you?


OK ... here goes:

Amanda's mom is Janet, right? Her father was Trevor, who Hayley always called Uncle Pork Chop because Hayley's mom Arlene is Trevor's sister.

Hayley is Adam's daughter. JR is Adam's son. That makes Hayley and JR sister and brother. Since Amanda would be Hayley's cousin, being that Amanda's father was Hayley's uncle ... wouldn't that also make JR Amanda's cousin?

Unless I'm missing something, I think that the AMC writers inadvertently had first cousins carry on an affair.

What if baby Trevor is really for JR? That would make the baby JR's son, AND his second cousin!
I'm trying to get it straight in my head. Trevor was Amanda's father. Arlene is Trevor's sister. That makes Arlene Amanda's aunt.

Arlene's daughter is Hayley. That makes Hayley Amanda's cousin. Hayley's father is Adam. That makes JR Hayley's brother.

So ... (lightbulb) I think I'm beginning to see. I think. JR would be Hayley's brother, but not Amanda's cousin, because neither Adam nor Dixie are related to Amanda.

Adam would've been Amanda's uncle (in a crazy, cock-eyed way) if Arlene had married Adam. Something like a step-uncle, maybe.

My head's beginning to hurt.


My husband and I have been on a few cruises in the last couple years and love them. Recently, we found out about a cruise leaving in a year that's affordable and we want to go. Here's the issue: He has a 10 year old son from a previous relationship and we have a 6 year old daughter together. My husband and I would love to take our daughter along on the cruise b/c she's a great traveler, would be fun to have along, etc. My stepson is sullen and difficult and taking him outside the country would be a huge battle with his mom.
Is there ANY way that this would ever work without scarring him for life? My husband says it's our life and to do what we want (bring our daughter) and that his son gets different experiences with his mom so we shouldn't make decisions about our daughter based on him. I say that there's no way to do this without hurting my stepson.
Opinions?
P.S. My in-laws (hubby's parents) would be irrate if we did this to my stepson - and hubby says, again, it's our life.
To clarify, we do have another child together, who is 3 and she won't be going, only the 6 year old. Someone commented that I seem to be leaning towards taking her despite the controversy and I think "Charm" summed up our feelings a little. My stepson went to California for a week with his mom, my daughter obviously didn't go and that was no issue, right? It's just from our side since our children share a dad that we can't just up and take our daughter on vacation with us without him so is she going to miss out on opportunities?


I split my 6 year old son with my ex-husband and I get my son every other week. Over the summer my ex married the women he cheated on me with 3 years ago. It's a given we do not like each other. Also, over the summer they moved in together and blended their families. She has two children and my ex has partial custody of our son and his daughter from his first marriage. My husband works in the evenings, so 5 of his 7 days with my son, his new wife cares for my son while he is at work. My son says that his step-mom spanks him hard and when my son gets mad that she is spanking him that she spanks him harder. He said, mom it hurts a lot when she spanks me! He also says, she locks in him in the bathroom when he is bad. Which my ex did tell me that, yes, they use the bathroom as my son's timeout place. I don't believe she should be physically touching my son and mad that my ex is not even caring for my son on his weeks. Just from the stuff my son tells me it is like she punishes my son because I am his mother. She always tells my son, that she is nice to me and I am just so mean to her and doesn't understand why? My son says, his dad and her fight all the time and she says how much she hates me, thinks I am stupid and calls me a f*cking b*tch all the time. I feel so bad for my son. I feel sad for my son and don't know if I should be upset and say something or keep my mouth shut? I hired a lawyer to get my son more but the process is taking forever. Since my ex received my lawyer's notice of representation letter, my son has been complaining more that his step-mom spanking and her sons are calling him stupid all the time. My son has told me a lot of awful things they have said about me and how I don't really want him and love him. I am just frustrated and don't know what to do anymore? I feel lost.
I should add my ex will not communicate with me at all. She makes sure he hates me as much as she does. His new wife even went to the extent of making a false email address (pretending that the alias email address was me) and corresponded with herself. She said things that I wanted my ex husband back, which I can assure you 110% I would never him want him back. These are the things she makes up in her head and convinces herself, nothing that is based in truth or fact. She even tried to file those emails with police as harassment and send them to my boyfriend in hopes she would cause trouble. She will do anything to make sure I never have any contact with my ex-husband, even if that contact ONLY concerns my son and nothing else.
No I am not making it out more than what the facts are. Yes, the had an affair but I care more about my son than holding onto that. I have seriously tried to make peace and asked them to move on from the past. I get met with mean comments from them. And yes the lawyer knows about the spanking but unless you have solid evidence to prove it, it is hard for them just to go off what my son reports to me. The legal process of custody issues is very slow. I thought when I hired my lawyer it would be a faster process and would be a lot easier. It is not as easy as you might think. You feel stuck in the meantime of waiting.
of course i try to tell my ex about what my son says. he doesn't want to hear it. he then calls me a lair. you have to understand, he needs her to watch his son so he can work and not to have to pay for daycre. he did it to me when we were married. he worked weird hours and I was always the one with the kids. i would love to tell him and her off or keep my son from them but then i don't want to legally set myself up where they can come back at me and try to take my son from me. it is a fine line you have to walk. i want to protect my son but i am trying to do it the right way and the legal way.
Wait, before you start saying you are going to report me. I have tried to tell my ex husband. I am met with only resentment and hate. I do care for my son greatly where I hired a lawyer and would do anything for him. I am going off what my son tells me when I am not around. I take everything my son says seriously and as the truth. that is why I took legal action and have a lawyer helping me. I would never let anything happen to my son and never turn the other way. I am just frustrated with how long the legal process is taking to get my son away from these people.
I guess at the time of my divorce I wanted to be civil and hope for the best. I never thought my ex would let this happen. I certainly wouldn't have agreed to joint custody. I would keep my son from him if I didn't know he was going to call the cops and show them our parenting plan which states we have joint custody. I have acted before hiring a lawyer in trying to get my son more and it only has lead to more threats from them. I have even flat out asked my ex if I can have my son on the days he works in the evening so my son can be with a parent. my ex only cares about having to pay child support if he did that. I have told him I would sign a legal document stating I would not seek anything financially from him. I just want my son, nothing else. you have to understand i am not dealing with rational people. trying to get custody of your child is not as easy. I thought going to a lawyer and hiring them was a simple solution. you need lots of money for it to be super easy & fast.


he was diagnosed w/ a sinus infection saturday and didnt get his prescription filled until monday. he also kept smoking until i finally took his cigarettes away b/c he started coughing like my late grandfather did when he had COPD.

he is now on his roughly 5th day of antibiotics(zpack), and all he does is take cold drugs all day and sleep. i had a severe sinus infection combined w/ a severe allergic reaction back in the spring(my throat was so swollen i couldnt swallow). my head hurt so bad that i couldnt even move, and i was expected to still care for my son all the time. after about the 2-3 day of antibiotics and a cortisone shot, i felt alot better. he has been doing this for the last week. i finally freaked out a bit on him last night, as he slept all day and all night. i had been up tending to him until 4am and my son got up at 9:30am, and he is a very active 18mo. and into everything non-stop, so i was exhausted, and given this is like the 5th to 7th day in a row of this, i was pretty burnt out as well, in addition to him all but refusing to go to school or get a job or do anything that might help provide for this family & instead sleeping all day, along w/ his mother seems to think that i should take care of my son by myself at all times, along w/ keeping the house immaculate, and some how i am supposed to find the time to make $100,000 dollars a year all on my own while her son sleeps all day and smokes and drinks all night and she tells everyone else in the family that she is raising my son, and that i do nothing, which couldn't be more of a lie. meanwhile my sil is supposed to receive infinite support b/c "oh poor her" she is by herself w/ the baby while my husbands brother is working a good job, along w/ she has her parents to watch the baby and has a car.

i told him that i felt like i was all alone and i was tired of being expected to not only be essentially the primary caregiver for my son constantly, w/ no help as far as child care, along w/ i am supposed to some how make $100,000/year on my own while taking care of my son and keeping the house immaculate(this is the amount of money his mother thinks i should make b/c that is what she believes you have to make in order to survive, and so that i can support her son, whom she thinks is the best thing since sliced bread and can do no wrong. she is also the biggest pathological liar i have ever met. i dont think i have in 5 years heard her tell the truth once).

i also confirmed tuesday of this week that i am pregnant. i havent told him yet, and i am pretty sure when i do tell him, he is going to get mad about it(when i got a faint positive last wednesday, he tried to say it wasnt positive and then went on a rampage about why did i have to tell him this now, after it was the first time in about 4 days i had seen him for more than 2 seconds as he had to go and take care of his mom while his grandmother was at the hospital. it was about 2 in the morning, but like i said-first time in 4 days i had seen him, and he was supposed to go back first thing the next morning and be gone again.), even though i made him be safe, as i wasnt on my bc, & he knew it, he took it off mid way through.

i have also been finding receipts for liquor in the car, along w/ empty beer cans,wine bottles, & 40 oz bottles all through our garage, along w/ the occasional empty liqour bottle that is his brand, that he ties to blame on the neighbors(we live in an apt. complex w/ working professionals and grad students, & he drinks canadian mist & leaves schlitz cans outside our garage and is trying to blame this on our neighbors). i have had to hide my pain pills from when i had my son, as well as any anti anxiety meds i have had in the past as when i was on xanax & that sort of thing for severe anxiety, he would steal them, along w/ my pain meds( i had an emergency c section w/ my son, so i had hydrocodone & some others).

this last week has about put me to the end of my rope. i have been looking for a job for a very long time now, but w/ no success.

i just don't know what to do. going to my parents is not an option as they disowned me over a year ago(my mother is a borderline personality w/ a bunch of other things tied in, & she refuses to take medication or do actual therapy, & did not like my dad having a father daughter relationship w/ me as it took attention from her, so she manipulated him into disowning me or she would divorce him & take my sisters & he would never see them again).

what do you think is going on w/ my husband?
the taking care of his mom was just prior to the sinus infection. also he mixed sudafed, nyquil, & alcohol the other night & started acting like an incoherant(sp?) jerk & trying to fight w/ me while i was trying to get our 18 mo. to sleep.
he had the flu tests & they were negative.


well my story is i met diz guy thru my parents if yu can say it and he told is mom dat he was amazed by me but his mom asked my mom didd your daughter like my son n my mom said i think =] n she saidwell give me her num so i can give it 2 him .few hrs later he txt me we have been talkin for about a week but i always make the conversation sumtimes because i like him but does he like me // i mean he txt me every single day all day but yu guys think he is interested in me?? he invites me wit him n his frends i think dat a good sign .. we havent kissed but it seeemed like dalast time he wanted 2 but he didnt


Im going to just b honest about everything now me and my husband have been married for 3 years now been together for 5 years i was living back home in the caribbean we are both from there, we got married and he filed for me to come here everything was ok with me and my husband until he brought me here he started treating me different leave me in the house i av to cook and clean up after him and his mother brother cousin and step father we were living at his mom, i did not like it so i started to tell him anyway he started to tell me that i'm miserable and i must just do it i got myself a little job and i was trying to convince him to let us move and get our own apartment as soon as his mom find out she start cursing me out telling him know what he is getting himself into want to move on his own its hard out there come on i'm 29 he is 34 years old we are married. anyway he started to come home from work late in the evening he would tel me that he is going to his car insurance or other places i did not take it for anything because i wasn't living here for long so i did not know his schedule anyway our relationship was not going so good one saturday morning i was using his phone to text my mom back home to telling her to call me back. i did not have a phone for myself next thing i know is i saw messages that he was sending and receiving from a female saying stuff like baby meet me on 125 street before he reach on 125st, baby i can imagine u up on that table last week, what u want me to do to you the next time i see u baby and she was like i want you to sex me in my mouth my ass the same things that u did the last time i did enjoy it baby. i was so traumatize we were just argueing day and night and his mom was happy laughing saying stuff like im overexagerating so i fell like i was going crazy i left and went to stay with my mom friend i was there for two months her son was living there he was single and he started telling me that he love he started treating me different so we started having sex when his mom wasnt there because we did not want her to know cause i respect her cause she was my mom friend. anyway after the two months my husband was begging me please come back he miss me he love me he cant do without me so i fell for it went back cause i really really love him too then i found out that i am pregnant like three weeks after, i had no clue that it was not for my husband because the other guy never discharge inside me when i was like 7months pregnant i found out that my husband was cheating with another girl i confronted him about it. he told me that he cant go on like this anymore because i couldnt have sex i would feel a lot of pain, he started coming home when he feel like, when he does he would not talk to me i got real sick high blood presure and was admitted in the hospital for two weeks he did not even know that i was addmited he did not call or anything i called his cousin cause we were close she told him he told me i should call him he did not come to look for me neither his mom so i told my doctors that i cant go back in the stress so they put me in a prenatal shelter he did not know where i was almost two months later when i was ready to deliver because he knew my due date he called me begging me to b there for the birth at first i say no then i decided to have him be there after i have the baby he beg me to come home saying he did not want his family to be in any shelter so i went back home again thinking that everything would be ok we went through counceling he told me infront of the councilor that he ended the relationship with the woman.. then she she started calling our house phone treathening me so i told him he av to let her stop calling she wouldn't stop calling so we would argue one night he was cursing me out telling me to go back to my shelter so i took up my baby and i was walking away and he started punching me in my head beating me up so i call the cops and ther arrested him now we r not to gether anymore i my daughter is 3months now she started looking like the other guy so we did a dna and she turned out to b happy he is happy .. but my husband still dont know she's not his child now i am wondering if i should just drop the case and move i wanna do that but i dont know how to tell him.. i kno he is not gonna get back with me because i got him arrested.. he cant c her or me because there is an order of protection whats ur best advise please it's really stressing me..?????????????????????????????


Hi. I'm 25, 26 in Jan... I'm a wife and mom of two kids a son 3 yrs and daughter, 7 mos. I got my AA last spring and started at a university last fall but only went one term because I was pregnant. Now I'm back there and figure if I take an avg of 10 credits (12 being full time) each term, it'll take me about 6 terms before I enter the education professional core (I'm going to be a teacher). This seems like forever to me. 3 years seems really long right now and I need some words of advice. If I keep going, I'll probably be done by the time I'm 30 which is good. I think it'd be hard for me to do full time right now. Maybe you could share your experiences or just give some advice.Thank you!


ok so I went out with this girl for about a week, 2 days and 2 or 3 hours. During this time I meet her parents. Her dad was kind of distance for a while the we grew into each other after while. He also works at our school as a police officer. So its been a while after me and her broke up and her family has took a real interest in me. her mom sister, and dad loves me imp like a son to them. They also want me to date there daughter even though she doesn't have feelings for me anymore. just a few weeks ago when I was over for dinner they paid for an extra ticket to go see WWE Monday night Raw which was like 80$ tickets. so I wrote the mother of the family a thank you card to show gratified. I couldn't buy them anything be cause I just got a new car and lost my job and still in high school. so the mo writes back saying that she thinks of me as a son of her own. then they said they have a surprise for me. when I ask what it was she said a cell phone. now I eyes did grow big but I still told her thata��s a big gift to just give someone. even though there going to add me to there plain where as it would only be 5 moor dollars a month they still have to pay for the phone, and along with the fact that there even giving me s phone. so the question is should I take it and why or why not

thanks a lot Rashid

Ps no stupid answers please
ps not that its a big deal but her parents are white dad police officer works at my school talks every day now, and im black NJROTC Commanding Officer.


An old friend of mine (not much anymore) has a 4 year old that bites, scratches and hits. He cusses and flips the bird and such. It came to light in the last 6 months that her boyfriend (not the biological father) hits him and her nephew when they do something wrong and many times beat them when he was drunk. They both drink and do drugs around the boy and her nephew. She couch hopped for two weeks and called everyone she could for money...i offered to buy her son groceries and she said no...she needed cash. I then later that night got a call from her when she was very drunk and said all her money was gone and she needed 600$ b/c she found an appartment that would take her. i told her to go home (she lives with her parents) or take her son back there or i'm sure CPS would get involved since she was living in a basement of a two bedroom house with eight people. she hung up on me and we haven't spoken since. The other day i found a message on myspace stating that a boy had gone to a party and her mom sold him the pot she stole from her daughter and he was willing to return it to her for a fee. could i take the text messages and message from myspace...even im's i've saved to cps? I thought the child was going to be fine since grandma was there to help out but now i'm not so sure since i read that she was selling pot.
I forgot the cops were there once after different boyfriend of hers punched the boy.


Joining the air force soon. My parents do not want me doing this, this isnt something new to them because ive been talking about this for years, but now that im close to signing the contract, they are giving me problems. The first thing they are doing is the guilt trick. They dont want me to join because if they get sick i wont be here to help them..and also because "i must not care about them because i want to leave". This is usually my mom thats doing the guilt stuff.

The second thing is mostly my dad threatening to lie to the recruiter telling him im a horrible punk with a bad attitude and theres no way i would make it in the military, and has even said he will tell the recruiter medical lies about me.

The next thing is the rest of my family(aunts, uncles, cousins, grandparents). Every single one of them have contacted me either in person or e-mail, begging me not to join the Air Force. Telling me that the entire time im there it will be nothing but hell. I have very good reasons for wanting to join and they never listen to any of them.

Can someone please give me advise?..im 19 years old, but im scared my parents will talk the recruiter into believing im not military capable.

Also..i understand why parents dont want their son/daughter in the military...but this is going WAY too far.


My 4 year old is being very violent. We had to get rid of the cat cause everytime my son had the opportunity he was pinning her head to the ground or kicking her. I have a 4 month old baby and I cannot allow him near the baby cause he has been caught putting his hand over babies nose and mouth or over the babies eyes he is always doing something mean. Today I heard him telling my daughter who is 6 that if she didn't stay in his room with him he was going to kill her. I don't let him watch violence on TV and I am a single mom but his uncles are always teasing him and playing rough with him when they visit. I blame them as of now I dont know what else it could be he also likes toy guns but I took them away cause he kept pretending to shoot me or his sister. This is all just a few concerns but where do I start to find help?? The pediatrician or phonebook?? Is a psychiatrist necessary? Please help put me in the right direction before it is too late.


We've sent both of our kids to the same in-home daycare provider since 2004. Our daughter no longer goes there, but our 17-month-old son does. We love her, and she's provided a wonderful environment for both of our kids. Until now, we haven't had a single complaint.

Recently one of the newer kids she watches has started biting the other kids. I spoke with one of the other moms who said her son was bit FIVE times in one day! This other mom said her son has been coming home with bites for months, and that after a few weeks of being bit by this little girl, he started biting, too. My son is younger than hers, so I think he's avoided her wrath until now. He's a little older now and has started to play more with the other toddlers, so now he's in her line of fire. In the past week, he's been bit twice by her. Once on his face and once on his shoulder, and both times it left a very obvious red bite mark for about a day. The other mom and I discussed this with our daycare provider, who said, "Oh, biting is just a developmental stage kids go through. Its inevitable!" She also said that the reason she was biting our boys was because our boys were pulling her hair (this happened today, where our boys pulled her hair and she bit them.) I told her that she can punish my son for pulling hair, that's fine. He needs to learn that pulling hair is not allowed, and I'll work on that with him. But she seems to have the attitude that biting is what they have coming to them for pulling her hair! In her words, "Its inevitable!" Which I think is a crock of you-know-what.

So what I want is some of your opinions. What can I say to her to convince her that biting isn't the norm, its not something that ALL kids do, and she needs to do something to STOP it from happening?
Okay, the other mom just called me and said she's giving the provider her 2 weeks notice, they're pulling their son. I'd like to see if we can get it resolved before I do anything so drastic, so I'm still open for advice! We've talked to her, and she doesn't see a problem. I guess if I can't convince her, we'll have to pull him.


The film is about a family leaving on vacation (mother, father, daughter and a Son), a day the father must go somewhere, so while the father is away, his wife was getting familiar with a man who sell clothes from a camping car and she cheats. and almost at the end the mother and the man who sells the clothes go to a festival where her daughter goes to with her new boyfriend, and at the festival she see her mom with an another man. And she also get her first period.


Sir,

My
aunt who is a widow has a sole property of a house received from her
ex-husband. She has two children, one male and one female. The female
child is dead now and she has two children. These two grand children of
my aunt is now asking for their mother's share. My aunt is still alive.
The will written by her late husband (my uncle) states that after his
death his entire property goes to his wife and after the death of his
wife then the property to be divided among his two children. Is it
therefore justifiable for the grand children to demand their mother's
share now? If they persist on this is my aunt obliged to give her
daughter's share to the grand children now as her husband's will
stipulates that the property to be shared between the two children only
after the death of his wife (my aunt).
Secondly, can my aunt write a will before her death stipulating that
the property goes to only her son, or someone who is taking care of her
in her old days, or to donate the entire property to a charitable
organization alike. Will such a will can supercede the will written by
her husband?


Ok, I am 24 weeks pregnant with my daughter and my son is 7 months old. I want to know if I could have this baby early since I got pregnant so soon after giving birth to my son. I don't know if my body got time to heal all the way before conceiving again (i.e. did my cervix close and thicken all the way, stuff like that). How many of you had your baby early when you conceived it right after giving birth? Thanks.
Oh, and no rude comments please. I get enough of that in my life without someone criticizing me over the web. Thanks


During my engagement dinner with my now-hubby and both our parents, my in-laws told my parents that they would pay for half the wedding even though my parents had said they would pay for the whole thing. His parents were separated and trying to work things out. Four months into the wedding prep, the FIL was still begging for my MIL's return and also found love online (yes, at the same time). He filed for divorce two months later and proposed several weeks after that. The official engagement (he bought the ring) was what would have been his 30th wedding anniversary to his ex-wife. I don't get along with the step-mom - think she is a gold digger. All she talked about was alimony from a previous marriage and how much money FIL spends on her (has spent over 10k in jewelry). She put out on their first date. She never mentioned what a great and funny guy he was. She insisted he buy a 450k house for just the two of them, which is three times the size of their previous home with three boys.

They insisted on getting married two months before my wedding day. They asked if it was OK, I said I wish they would wait until after I got married and they said "that's too bad, we've already made plans". The reason I asked them to wait was because his dad was talking about how he couldn't wait to flaunt his new wife in front of his ex and her family. I thought it very distasteful.

The week before their wedding, I get an ultimatum from FIL who says that me and hubby should expect nothing for our wedding if I don't attend. I don't attend weddings for couples I do not support. My hubby attended without me; FIL didn't even give us a penny or a card for the wedding. "Congrats" would have been nice to hear on the wedding day instead of him yelling at my mom for holding up dinner for 2 hours while his ex-wife checks their son into a hotel so he can smoke pot (see other question about dealing with her and him). He said "people are hungry, people want to leave" and yelled at her with finger in her face (he's 6'4" and my mom is 5'4") even though hot and cold appetizers were being served (plenty of food).

We didn't invite his new wife to our wedding. FIL's invitation only had his name on it as MIL's invitation. FIL had made threatening remarks against MIL's boyfriend with whom she had an affair with. He also had cancer and FIL and uncle were threatening to beat him up. My hubby decided not to invite MIL's bfriend so I decided not to invite FIL's new wife. Only fair, right? Why reward the bullish behavior? FIL's family starts calling us two weeks before wedding saying they aren't going to come unless new wife gets invited. My hubby tells them not to come if it means that much to them. They end up coming and FIL brings his new wife against our wishes. We went heavily in debt because my parents assumed his family was paying for the other half of the wedding. Hubby's family made up 75% of guests since he has huge family. FIL and step-mom in law pissed that we did not invite step-mom's children and parents. We didn't have the money to do this.

We tried moving on after the wedding, but things got worse. We share season tix that we paid for than half for. He kept the 2 good seats on the sideline and gave us the 2 end zone seats. I asked for the $250 difference in the tix and he said we were not entitled to them because "the tix were in his possession so they are his" even though we had paid for more than half.

He called at Christmas time to tell my hubby that he is invited, but I am not. We were basically exiled from my hubby's family, not being invited to family functions. They talked about what a horrible bitch I was.

There are a lot more examples I can provide but to move on....

On our one year anniversary, we tried reaching out to FIL to reconcile. I asked hubby to send letter to his dad explaining how hurt he felt. He came over to our house and said how it wasn't his fault, how is sister and mom said so. He didn't call again until Christmas.

We've been estranged from him since 2003. In 2007, we welcomed our first daughter. I have told my hubby that he can take her over to see FIL but he has only done so once. Hubby is still bitter over everything that has happened, and no apology from his dad. I will never speak with or interact with FIL again, but have encouraged hubby to have a relationship. He doesn't seem to want one.

My dilemma is, am I obligated to force a relationship between a man I hate and can't trust and my daughter who means everything to me? His mom and brother thinks I'm a bitch for preventing a relationship. I wish they would just mind their own business for a change and understand that my hubby makes the decisions for his family.

Thoughts? Thanks everyone for a response.


I have 2 children one is three years old and the other one is 3mths. They are exactly 3 years apart and were born on the same day, which was totally unplanned. My 3 year old daughter was born during a previous relationship, her dad and I broke up. 3 years later I'm involved in a new relationship, engaged to be married with a 3 month old. This is my fiance's first biological child. This is my second, but he's the first boy in an all girl family. We don't plan to have anymore, would the birth order rules apply here, and if so would they be considered 2 first borns or 2 onlys. We both make sure not to treat the children any different. I still spend plenty of time with my daughter so she doesn't feel like her brother is taking away her attention. My fiance spends more time with our daughter than our new son...I think because he's so small and he's scared. I'm sure that will change as he gets older. Right now he mostly plays with our daughter. I'm a stay at home mom...my fiance works so the majority of their time is spent with me. Also, I include my daughter in everything with the baby. She helps bathe him, she helps to pick his clothes, she doesn't help feed him yet because I breastfeed. Also, her 2 cousins which are 13 and 14 come over everyday to help out with the 3 year old. They read to her, play with her, and do whatever they need to do to basically distract her while I take care of the house and spend time with the baby. My daughter's biological father is partially in her life. She calls her soon to be step father daddy and I never told her to. He's been in her life since she was 10mths. Sorry it's so long, but basically how can I keep the birth order thing at bay. I'm the youngest of 4, and my fiance has a brother that is 12 years younger than him. Would the birth order rules apply to us or are there exceptions?


my mom met a guy and he has got 3 sons and one daughter. I really get along with the one son who is two years older then me. he is 22 and im 20. we hang out a lot. we dont live in the same house YET but soon i will be living with them more. i sleep over there sometimes and we make out and thats about it but we hide it from our parents. is this just realllllly realllly weird and not normal? i havent told my friends yet..im kinda freaked out at what they will say haha


My daughters father calls me when ever he wants. We dont get along but I allow the communication between the two of them. I try to communicate with him through text because we have communication issues- I'll tell him something regarding our daughter, and he later tells me I said something else. He gets very angry and aggressive if we don't answer or call him back. I've heard him correcting our 5 yr old for not calling him back. He'll call 2-3 times in a hr as well as leave texts. He calls me names if I dont answer and is constantly trying to get me to call him. If our daughter is sick, I let him know and follow our court order. That goes for dr visits and anything else. He keeps repeating the questions I answered, and will ask me how dr visits go, before we've even had the appointment. Recently I had to call his wife, explain how our daughter was sick anhd what was going on, because I told him and tried explaining what I knew, and he continued asking the same questions. My 5month old was due for surgery the following week and my ex was upsetting me by the continous tests and and demands. The day of the surgery I left my phone with my mom and my daughter with my sister. He called and texted me numorous times while I was at the hospital. The next day he called twice, my mom answer and reminded him I was at the hospital with my son, he because beligerent with her so she3 hung up He called back. He also texts numorous times that day. This is very stressful to me with him calling me this way. He will go a week or more with out calling, then the calls start and keep coming until my daughter calls him. He doesn't seem to care that I have things to doand that our daughter doesn't have access to the phone when ever he wants. She tries calling him, but doesnt get a answer nor a call back.


my boyfriend proposed in may with a ring and all that and i said yes. he called my dad after and there was some misunderstanding that my bf was asking permission, not asking a blessing. my dad can be a little scary, his is the father of 3 teenage girls and no sons, and he told my bf that 'yes he can propose to me, just not right now please'. so that was our fault that we were in a pickle and our first engaged moment was totally ruined.
my mom went ballistic and crazy mad for wanting to get married young for the rest of the day (i was away for college in another state, hes in the military in the same state) and my dad was just...shocked, i guess. after that day, my parents did not bring up anything related to marriage/ engagement/ proposal/ that type of thing.
now, im finishing my BS here at home and the boyfriends on patrol for the whole holiday season and after (i see him in march :( ).
now, my parents (mostly the mother) are all anti-young-marriage yet THEY got married at the same age i am. Actually, they ran off and eloped, then came home and got engaged and then had a ceremony...and 25 years later, they are still married. my mom made me feel like i was trash and some "housewife" becasue i want to marry the man that makes me happy and makes me smile. but, when i see him in march, i want to come home with that over-the-top sparkler he bought. i want to be engaged to him and i want to plan a wedding. i will marry him, and we will do it in vegas if thats what it comes too, but i want our families behind us. we'll both be 21 in a few months, older than my parents were when they got married/eloped. i obviously wouldnt get married the next day if i get engaged.

how do i bring this up with them without my mom going crazy and kicking me out of the house?

im almost done with my BS, only 2 more semesters to go and they were the ones that wanted me to come home and live with them to finish since its so expensive.
i want to live here for another year, i want my parents to be supportive, and mostly i want to be engaged to my boyfriend. i have other issues with my mom but they should want there daughter to be happy right. they love my bf like their own son and he loves them too. i dont want my family to be tense and fustrated becasue im finally doing what i want.


Ok so I'm 13 and I have a myspace and there's a picture of me and my cousin on there just messing around and him making a funny face and I'm friends with my aunt on myspace (as you can imagine it sucks to be friends with an annoying aunt on myspace) and a couple of months ago my friend left a comment on that picture, "It looks like your cousin's ready for some cock in his mouth!", and my aunt saw it and she got really mad and she told me to delete that comment so I did. My aunt and my mom work at the same job and she went up to my mom today and said, "Your daughter and her friend drew a penis in my son's mouth on one of her pictures on myspace." Now I'm grounded for like two weeks for something I didn't do! WFT?? NO ONE EVER DREW A PENIS IN HIS MOUTH IN THAT PICTURE!!!!!! I even showed my dad the picture so I could prove there was nothing there no one still believes me! They think it was there and that i deleted it! ok so parents
do you agree with my punishment? Do you think my aunt is stupid? What do you think about this situation



****I'm not even a bad kid! I'm so good actually!! I have good grades, I'm in student council, Year book, Lego robotics, competitive softball leagues, and EVEN CHESS CLUB!!!!


My friends son and his GF are having a baby, she is 16 he is 18, they have been dating for over a year now, her parent's liked him until they found out she was pregnant. That is when her mom went PSYCHO, she is a mid 30 year old woman who is acting like a 2 year old, throwing a tantrum. She makes her daughters life hell everyday, marks the food so she can't eat it all since she is pregnant, said she would take her room away from her, and just let her sleep on the couch, she threatens to have to baby taken away as soon as it is born, the newest one is that the mother is going to make sure the baby goes up for adoption as soon as it is born, THIS IS THE ADULT DOING THIS. She is trying to get her daughter to miscarriage, refuses to buy her the necessary things needed IE: Vitamins food etc. She won't speak to her daughter unless it is to demean her or yell. Yes a social worker is involved and the OB/GYN that takes care of her, but her mom gets worse and worse everyday with her drama fits. What are the laws in Ohio on this. What rights does this soon to be mom (the 16yr. old) have? Do you know of somewhere I can look up information to print to send to this psycho?


This dream left me feeling really bad(well who wouldn't, honestly.)

Anyway, it started off with me leaning over my mom's shoulder while she was looking through her e-mails when suddenly we notice a message with the subject, "I knew your son and daughter." So we were curious and clicked on it. Inside were pictures of different people seemingly sad and stressed out. As we went lower, I remember seeing picture after picture of different people(all whom I've never seen in my life) lying dead in their coffins. Some picture were even black and white, looking like they were taken a really long time ago.

I still can't get over this dream and feel pretty shaken up by it and what it might mean. Any help?
Read My Mind!: Honestly, I wish it was just that--but I don't usually butt into anyone's business. I was just there because my mother wanted me to be.


am a stay at home mom with a 20 month old son and 3 month old daughter. Neither of my children are exposed to other children a lot except at story time at the library, church and Bible study. I know that my daughter is too young for any flu shot, but should I have my son vaccinated? I am especially concerned that the H1N1 vaccine has not been tested for side effects very extensively. Does anyone have any advice. My daughter has an appointment in mid -November for a routine well check-up and I thought I'd ask the doctor then, but I wanted some opinions now. Thanks!


Theres a movie with a son who's about 17 and meets some girl. The two have dinner at his house with is mom and before you know it...theyre married and have a kid. Soon after the marriage starts failing...and the wife starts "cheating" and going out with other guys while the husband(young man) is in the military. He doesn't like the wifes poor decision making of choosing fun over their daughter which leads to several arguments and ultimately him threatening to divorce her and take custody of the child. The wife doesn't take well to this threat especially of him taking their daughter away and threatens him back saying he'll die first. The wife then has a new boyfriend i think by the name of Rocky whos also in the military but much larger then the husband who ends up murdering the husband by waiting for him to get home and then shanking him with a knife several times. The wife finds out her husband has been murdered and calls the mom of her deceased husband and pretends like she is shocked, surprised and heartbroken by the tragedy(even tho the wife had it set up). Thenthe wife fleas town with their daughter while the boyfriend who killed her husband gets arrested on a plane. Then the rest of the movie is about the deceased husbands mom trying to find and convict the wife for her sons murder(even though the wife actually had it set up instead of doing it directly) and obtain custody of the child her son and the wife had. If you have any idea what the name of this movie is please elt me know...as i saw it 5 years ago but dont remember the name and dont know any of the actors names


I am a stay at home mom with a 20 month old son and 3 month old daughter. Neither of my children are exposed to other children a lot except at story time at the library, church and Bible study. I know that my daughter is too young for any flu shot, but should I have my son vaccinated? I am especially concerned that the H1N1 vaccine has not been tested for side effects very extensively. Does anyone have any advice. My daughter has an appointment in mid -November for a routine well check-up and I thought I'd ask the doctor then, but I wanted some opinions now. Thanks!


funny thing.. i've had two babies already so i should just know this stuff.. but.. i forgot!

when do they start to see you ever two weeks? i am currently 28 weeks.
when do they start to see you every week? just for the last 4 weeks right?
how long will i be in the hospital? with my daughter we where in for five days because i had a fever while i was delivering and they wouldn't release her until she came back with a clean blood culture.
with my son we where released about 9 hours after he was born so i could take him to a childrens' specialist hospital.. he was born with a severe celft lip and palate..

so.. saying everything goes "normal" how long do they keep a newly delivered mom and baby?


My ten year old son is sick with the flu. My daughter had the same thing over the weekend and it only lasted 24 hours. She threw up twice and was really tired. No fever or anything like that. Well, my husband and I are both in a position where we will be fired if we take off anymore time at work. I was just on the phone with my husband giving him an update about his son when I heard him getting yelled at by his supervisor for being on the phone. He tried to explain that his son is sick but his supervisor kept yelling at him to get off the phone.

So, my ten year old is at home alone with the flu and I'm starting to get really stressed because my cell phone (that I left with him) won't be turned on until about 2pm (It's a Metro and I have to pay the bill to activate it). We're kind of in the worst position right now. I know my son can take care of himeself, but I'm extra worried because I can't call him for couple hours. I told him to go to the neighbors house and use the phone if anything happens.

Should I have stayed home and risked my job?? My husband and I are in a really, really tight spot right now and can't afford for me to quit, otherwise, I would be a stay at home mom. My hubby's job doesn't offer benefits and he doesn't always get full time work. Last week, he only worked three days and the week before that, he only work one day. What would you have done??
I would have someone come over and watch him but we recently moved about an hour and a half away from our family, so that's not possible.
My husband is paid under the table, so his boss isn't following the legalities as it is. My husband took the job because it's the ONLY work he can find (he's a carpenter and there are simply no construction jobs). I just started my job two months ago and I'm in a probationary status until next month...they don't have to have a reason to fire me until then and I've already taken time off twice for my 5 month old son.
And just to clarify, my son does NOT have a fever, he has exactly what my daughter had over the weekend, otherwise, I would have risked my job to stay with him. The way I see it, if I get fired, my kids arent' going to have medical insurance and then I won't be able to take him to the hospital/doctor if needed.
CHARM: Your information is not correct. I live in CA and children CAN stay home alone under the age of 12. I actually looked it up. If that was the case, than all those latchkey kids would be taken away by CPS. Make sure you have your information correct before making false accusations!
Thumbell: Wellfare isn't going to pay the $1250/month rent (on a two bedroom apartment, none the less) nore is it going to cover all our eating and electricity bills. Wellfare isn't designed to live off of! It sounds like you haven't ever been in a position like this becuase you have no concept of what it's like. I've been on welfare several years ago, and it doesn't pay nearly enough to support a family. It's only *supplimental* to help you get by.
Thumbellina: $1250 a month isn't a pricey apartment where we live. And it's not like we can just move at the drop of a hat because my kid is sick. The rent it due next week. We don't live a luxurious lifestyle. Not to mention, just to get wellfare takes a MONTH at least! You can't just walk in there and demand money on the spot. We tried getting subsidized housing but the housing authority in our area isn't even accepting applications because they have 300 people on the waiting list and no available houses. My husband and I have weighed all our choices and I simply can't quit my job, otherwise, I would.


This is my second marriage. My husband and I dated for a short while when I became pregnant while on the pill. When I found out, we had actually been split up for 2 weeks. I was terrified because I had 2 children (5 and 3 at the time) from my previous marriage and I knew I wouldn't be able to be a single mom of 3! When I told him, he shocked me. He wanted to make things work. We talked and our argument that split us up turned out to be a complete misunderstanding. I was just bitter from dating so I had thought the worst. I was faced with a major decision with short time to make it. I was already 10 weeks pregnant. We talked a ton and spent a lot of time together and I decided to take the chance. I fell in love, fast. He was everything I had ever hoped for. He doted on me, pampered me, took care of everything. He had lost a son in his previous marriage at 10 months, so I think he looked at this as a gift. He also has a daughter, who was 3 at that time. Anyway, he proposed at Christmas, a month after we decided to make things work as a family. Our son was born in May of 08. He had major problems at birth, but pulled through. He's an amazing little boy. We were married in September of 08. Things were going well, with a few snags until January, when he was laid off. He was devastated. He had been told that he was the last person who needed to worry about getting laid off just one month before, by the owner of the company. But it came down to numbers. It took him 5 months to find a new job. I was working each day from 10-3 and he was home almost every day pounding the job boards. During this time, things became rough. We argued a lot, and he kept explaining that I was difficult to live with. That the quirks I have are difficult for him. He's very meticulous, likes things a certain way, organized and perfectionist. I keep things fairly clean and picked up, but I become easily distracted (with 3 sometimes 4 kids!) and some things get left unfinished. This drives him nuts. But in part, I felt that he was home so much that he had nothing else to do but notice these things. Once he found a job, things still didn't get better. My kids have had some issues, such as my 4 year old son being diagnosed with ADD. They have never bonded, and that's hard for him. My daugher, who is now 7, seems to have a great deal of anxiety, and that's hard for him too. He doesn't do well with medications or mental illnesses, as he believes in more of a natural approach. These last several months have been extremely up and down. He doesn't want to invest everything into this if he feels that it's destined for failure. I have invested everything I have into this. I give him my all, and treat him great. I feel that he doesn't recognize how good he has it, and how great this family could be. But I also feel like I'm constantly walking on eggshells, for fear that he's going to decide that he doesn't want this. How can I show him what he has? I tend to get a little clingy when I feel insecure.....how can I stop this?


see me and my boyfriend have been watching my boyfriend's mom adoptive kid on and off for a few months while my boyfriend's dad is in the hospital. everything was fine until watching the kid who is 14 years old was putting a strain on our relationship because we are new to live together we only been living together for 5 months but dating for 2 years and definitly arent ready to have kids yet. we been having her spend the night here and i been taking her to school and picking her up. its been like this for a few months now. so this october a few weeks ago his mom asked if id pick up her adoptive daughter from school but she was staying at her friends and asked if id meet her friend mom them half way to drive them the rest of the way to school. its a car pool thing where my boyfriends mom picks up her new daughter's friend half way to school and drives them the rest of the way to school and then picks them up in the afternoon and drops of her daughters friend half way home. ok. so i asked why couldnt her friend mom take them to school why do i have to get up to meet them? his mom says she would call the mom and see but instead she starts sending me hate text messages calling me a slob and inconsidereate and sends the same text messages to her son and my boyfriend. eventually my boyfriend makes up with his mom and just says sorry to end the whole mess. though he did nothing wrong. a week or 2 passes and now his mom needs help again. my boyfriend took off one day from work to pick up his moms new daughter but just the next week his mom was asking if id pick up her adoptive daughter. she texted me asking. i told her after the way she treated me i didnt feel comfortable helping her out. so now this whole mess is going to start again. and i refuse to help his mom. and eventually my boyfriend cant just take off work too much because then he wont have a job for very long and esp in this economy with the way it is managers are quick to fire people. so am i wrong not to help? sometimes i feel like just going back to my parents. but i love my boyfriend its just im not ready to pick up someone elses kid almost every week and watch them when her husband is in the hosptial. shes afraid to leave her new daughter alone because shes afraid her dad will try and kidnap her. but shes 14 years old and i think shes old enough to stay home alone. i also dont think its right to help someone after how they treated me like that. i feel like im being used? what should i do? any advice?


I am an MIL-I have daughters and a son, all married-and I remember both how nervous I was the first time I spent the holidays with my in-laws and how nervous my now DIL and SILs were to spend it with me. Here is a look at it from the MIL and DIL pov:

To DILs:

1) Try to join in all the fun.
As MILs, we know that our traditions are different from your families and that they will never measure up, but we have traditions too and we would like you to at least give them a chance. Nothing sends a red flag to us like a FDIL or DIL who won't partake in our family rituals. To us it means like you will never share our rituals with your children and that you will be less likely to spend or want to spend holidays with us. It also makes us feel you don't like us.

2) We know it's hard to try to meld with us.
Yes, as MILS we know how hard it is to find your footing in a new family, to feel as if you don't belong. We were in your shoes once. But please try. We would love to help you belong and to welcome you.

3) Please don't compare us and our holiday traditions to those of your family.
It is human nature to do this, but please don't. We know as in-laws we will come up short and that is not fair. Please try to find the good in our holiday traditions-give us a chance. We might have something to offer too! After all, these are the traditions your husband grew up with and might like to pass on to his kids. My pastor's wife still speaks sadly of the first year her now DIL came to visit. DIL's family was radically different from that of my pastor's wife and DIL was very overwhelmed and upset by having to be away from her family. The whole 3 days she spent with my pastor and his family, she rose late and went to bed by 4pm and she was aloof and standoffish the whole time she visited. Needless to say my pastor and his wife were crushed and DIL has never spent another holiday under their roof.

4) Try our food. It's not that bad
Holidays mean food! At least in our house they do. And that means us moms are making all the holiday faves. Please try it. Nothing hurts more than to have our cooking and family recipes rejected. We know it is not what you may have grown up eating, but it doesn't hurt to try.

5) We really want you to like us and our family
We know it will take a while for you to think of us, your in-laws as family, but we are scared of what will happen if you don't. I hear story after story of DILs and FDILs throwing in the towel with their in-laws if there is one perceived slight over the holidays. Please don't do this. We want to welcome you and have you in our family. Holidays mean family and this is what you are to us.

For MILS/FMILS

1) Don't expect too much
Don't expect your son's partner to just seamlessly blend in or be excited to spend holidays with you. Things are different now. My generation was really the first one where people started marrying people who lived in different areas of the country and who had different traditions. Chances are the girl that your son will marry is one who did not grow up near you and who has different family traditions that she will sorely miss. If FDIL or DIL seems mopey or upset, don't press. There is always next year and for god's sake, don't hound your son about it.

2) Let her cook if she wants to
Nothing equals your mom's cooking, especially at the holidays. If FDIL or DIL wants to cook a special holiday dish to make her feel better about being away from her family or to share with your family, let her. Please don't be that MIL or FMIL who is territorial about her kitchen

3) If she doesn't want to go to church, don't be upset
This is a big one. If your FDIL is not religious or is of a different faith or is of no faith, don't freak out. Let her worship or not worship in her own way and don't get upset if it conflicts with your way. This really is issue is a powderkeg best left unlit.

4) What if she doesn't fit in with your family?

What if the girl your son brings home does not fit in or want to fit in with your family? Get over it. You can't do anything about it and if you try, you will lose your son. I have seen it with my friends and it has happened in my extended family. Your son chose this girl and he will have to live with her. You will have limited exposure to her. Be cordial and never give her a reason to not want you around.


ok it's a long story: Me and my ex-girlfriend have a 10 month old son. We have never lived together and she is married to someone else and never got a divorce. now when my son was born she never told me so I wasn't present and her husband signed as the father so I don't appear as the father anywhere. (I know I'm the father 100%) I have been seeing the baby every so often and I give her more than enough money to take good care of him but now she's starting to act like a bitch and I want to gain custody. By the way she has a 9 year old girl from her first b/friend and then another 3 girls and a boy from her husband and then my son. They live in a really small house really crowded and I think my son would be better with me. At her house it's her mom, her 18 year old brother, her 16 year old sister, her 4 daughters, her son, my son and her! a total of 10 people in a 2 bedroom small house. What are my chances of getting custody? I'm not trying to be a jerk but sometimes she won't let me see him and I think it would be better for the baby to be with me but I know first I have to prove that I am the father. Any help would be appreciated. I live in the state of California. Thanks!


I'm 17 y/o and i'm engaged to a 19 y/o that I knew for 2 years he has a 2 y/o son and I have a 10 week old daughter. His son's mom run out on him and has nothing to do with her son. and my daughters daddy run out and has nothing to do with his daughter. I get a lot of people saying that i'm nut's and crazy for being engaged at 17 and they say that i'm crazy for letting his son call me mommy but I don't mind that he calls me mommy. I am more then willing to step in to be his mom and myself I think it sweat that he calls me mommy. What do u all think


I am a 32 year old woman. I have a friend, her name is "Wendy"(same age) Wendy has a 2 year old son fathered by a man who lives with another woman along with his 2 year old daughter. He also has 2 other kids by two different women. My friend is heads over heels in love with this guy. He is a jerk and plays games with her emotions. He sleeps with my friend along with the other women he lives with. My friend knows it and stupidly waits for him to leave this other woman. My friend Wendy and I spend hardly any time together because all she cares about is him. On several different occasions while we were hanging out/spending time together she would ditches me as soon as he comes around. Even when it is supposed to be just us girls having fun. She asked to come over to my place 2 weeks ago to hang out. While she was sitting on my couch her cellphone rang and it was him as usual. She sat talking to him while I sat there. She then asked me to babysit her kid while she got her hair done. When she came back, her boyfriend was waiting outside so she left. Just tonight about 90 minutes ago she called me asking to come over to see her new apartment. We were talking and then her cellphone rang and of course it is her jerk "boyfriend". So for the next 45 minutes she sat on the phone talking/arguing with him while I sat on her couch looking stupid. After she hung up, she said he was coming over now and that she would see me tomorrow maybe. So I left. I am now to the point where I don't want to be bothered anymore by her. She tosses me aside all the time. We barely see each other or spend less than 30 minutes together because every time he calls, she jumps. I sometimes feel like I am not important to her or my friendship means nothing.to her. I have tried talking to her about this, but nothing has changed. I know I can't compete against a man, but isn't female friendship important too? What kind of friend would treat a person that way. My mom says to leave her alone and not answer her calls. What should I do?


How do counselors feel about children calling the Step Mom.. Mom? My daughter totally adores my fiance and hears our son call her mommy and calls her that as well. We have a counseling session with my ex and I know she has a problem with it.... but is there anything you can do?


My fiance and I are going to do a joint mother/son and father/daughter dance at our wedding reception. We can't come up with any songs that we really like that apply to both a mom and dad. Any suggestions? We prefer something slower, as none of us are big dancers. Thanks!


I have two boys, and when they were younger as in diaper age sometimes they would spray. Like one time my husband was changing our youngest son who at the time was two months old, and my son peed while his diaper was off spraying my husband.
We are having a little girl, and a thought occurred to me while I was putting her crib sheets on.....
Do/ can baby girls do that too?
All of my friends have boys, or no kids at all so I cannot ask them. When I asked my mom she said she does not really remember.
I mean I know that they may pee while their diaper is off during a changing, but will it shoot up/ out like a boys would?
Thanks! I know this may seem weird, but like I said I am new to the baby girl stuff.
Have a great day!


I was upset today when my children arrived home from school and notified me that they were pulled out of class by a DCF worker and questioned. Last night my son's father and step mom had an argument and the cops were called. I understand pulling my son out of class to question him but why my daughter? They don't share the same father. And I looked up the laws about DCF questioning children and it says it needs a parents consent. The also asked about all the children in the home. I'm the innocent parent in this and yet wasn't notified at all about any of this. What options do I have? What they did was completely illegal. My daughter was so upset over this and she thinks she's in trouble. Why would they do this to my children without permission??


I was upset today when my children arrived home from school and notified me that they were pulled out of class by a DCF worker and questioned. Last night my son's father and step mom had an argument and the cops were called. I understand pulling my son out of class to question him but why my daughter? They don't share the same father. And I looked up the laws about DCF questioning children and it says it needs a parents consent. The also asked about all the children in the home. I'm the innocent parent in this and yet wasn't notified at all about any of this. What options do I have? What they did was completely illegal. My daughter was so upset over this and she thinks she's in trouble. Why would they do this to my children without permission??


My fiance and I have a 10 month old baby girl. My mother has been giving her change that she saves up each month to go in her piggy bank. She has around $200 so far. We were planning on opening up her a savings account.

My fiance's mother just told me she wanted to open up our daughter (her grandchild) a savings account. I think that is great, but she wants the $200 my mom has saved for our baby to go in her savings account that she is opening.

I just really don't wanna give her the money, because my name isn't going to be on the account also. It will just be her, my fiance, and our daughters. Even if she does plan on putting my name on their, which I know she isn't, because she only got her son's social security number for it, she could easily have my name taken off if my fiance' and I ever split up. I hope it never happens, but you never know what the future holds.

It's my daughters money, I know, but I want part in what she uses it for such as college or a car, and when she is able to get it out. I mean, I would be putting money in her savings account along with my mom, shouldn't I have that right?


I have talked to my mom about it, and she agrees with me that it would probably be best if I got a separate account for the money she and I are saving for her, that way if anything did happen or if my name is not on the account I would have some say so with the money.


What would you do? Would you go ahead and let her open a savings account and just put money in there, not knowing whats going to happen with the money later on?


I don't want to be rude or mean to her. She has called again asking about that money in her piggy bank. I tried hinting to her that I really didn't want to do it. I told her that she really didn't have to open her up one, that we were wanting to open her up one. Her reply was "I want to. " I mean what else can I say with out sounding rude about it?
I know it's just $200, but when you save up money each month, it will be more and more and more and more and so on.
and she is going tomorrow to open one up. Forgot to mention that.


if your son or daughter comes running into your bedroom one night, says that there's a demon in his/her bedroom, even though he/she never actually saw a demon, but he/she heard an unknown voice say ''hey'' ... the next day he/she sees a shadow figure moving on the wall, then vanishes after a few seconds, is scared & nervous for 3 straight days, doesn't eat, can't sleep, but he/she starts eating good again after 3 days... starts having bad dreams almost every night about a demon that is always trying to drag him/her to hell for the next 2 weeks. starts to pray & read the bible every night. he/she refuses to sleep in his/her own bedroom, sleeps in the living room every night. 2 months after all this...he/she has seen shadow figures 6 times, sometimes hears whispers while trying to sleep at night, believes that there's a demon girl in the house that sometimes watches him/her, but he/she cannot see this demon girl, but feels like he/she is being watched, but only feels that way when he/she is in the house. also believes that this demon girl can read his/her mind, and that this demon may be out to get him/her, but he/she isn't sure...thinks that this demon sometimes plants thoughts into his/her head.

im in this situation, but im the kid/daughter. i am 17...my mom seems to think that there's something wrong with me. a couple weeks ago she told me that she is going to take me to a psychiatrist, but she hasn't...i keep telling her that there's nothing wrong with me, and so does my dad, because he used to see shadow figures as a kid, too. and he doesn't have a mental disorder.

but pretend you have a son or daughter and if he/she did all this, would you think he/she has a mental disorder? if yes, what mental disorder would you think he/she may have?

P.S. i asked this question once already but would i like to get a few more opinions....

thanks in advance :)